Birthrites: Healing After Caesarean.

Sarah's Stories.

A long time has passed since the birth of Rebecca (who is now 5) however I can recall every moment clearly. It was an average to bad pregnancy with no real medical problems but terrible nausea throughout. In total I gained 10 kilos, suffered no high blood pressure or swelling. The heat in January and February in Sydney was pretty unbearable but I coped by keeping my feet in buckets of cold water. I left work at 36 weeks and spent the last 4 weeks blissfully at home. I lived quite near the beach so I used to catch the bus down to the beach every afternoon and enjoy a pleasant swim in the cool water. I also kept riding my bike right until the due date as I didn't want to lose all my fitness (I had competed at club and state level in road racing). At the start of my 40th week I felt impatient, I was quite breathless and looking forward to holding my baby. On the Thursday of the 40th week I went to the beach as usual and was sitting on the bench waiting for the bus when the man next to me asked "when is the baby due". "I think its coming today" was my reply - you should have seen his face!

Anyway I got home from my bus trip and sat down on the sofa to watch some television - and POP my waters broke. I could now feel the contractions that I had been having all day - they felt like period pain. I rang the hospital and then asked me to come in, I rang my husband who was finishing work and asked him to come home. He worked as a bicycle courier and he did the journey home in about 1/2 the usual time! He was really hot and sweaty when he got home. He had a shower, we rang for the taxi and we went to the hospital. The taxi ride was awful - I hated all 10 minutes of it!

We arrived at the hospital at 7pm and I was booked into the delivery suite and was checked over by the midwife - 3cm dilated. The contractions were getting stronger but were very manageable. I didn't like the interference in the delivery suite, but as this was my first child I wanted to have help at hand if things went wrong. The hour from 9pm to 10pm was very difficult and I was sucking on the gas almost constantly. At 10pm the midwife came in again to examine me and I said "if I'm not very far advanced I would like an epidural". However I was 10cm dilated and ready to push! I'm glad I went to the birth classes otherwise I would have been really disappointed about how long it takes to push a baby 10cm down the birth canal! It took me nearly 2 hours to push Rebecca out and she was delivered naturally with no stitches, no forceps and not too much of a cone head.

5 years later I decided to do it all again - I waited a long time as the memory of 8 months of nausea was very difficult to forget. I was now 35 years old and it took 10 months until Alexander was conceived. The pregancy was easier, the nausea was less overwhelming and even thought I vomited just about every day for the first 6 months it was quite bearable as I didn't feel sick all day. The first indication that something could be wrong was our 20 week ultrasound - we were told we must have our dates wrong as the baby was only the size of a 15-16 weeker. We thought nothing of it, changed our due date in our minds and kept on going with our lives. I was working 12 hours a day and feeling very energised and well. I rode my bike to work until 30 weeks and then stopped due to the risk of being knocked off and injured. The bus rides were terrible - nobody stood up for me and since my blood pressure is naturally low and I can feel dizzy when I stand still for long periods. I still didn't look very pregnant and was wearing most of my usual clothes up until 7 months. At around 38 weeks we went to my brothers house for the Easter weekend. I didn't sleep too well at their home - I thought because it was a strange place, but in hindsight it was the contractions keeping me awake!

We went home on the train and arrived home around 7pm, tired from travelling for several hours and settled in to watch Lord of the Rings. I was feeling these vague period like cramps that were mild but consistent - about every 1/2 hour. They were strong enough to keep me awake so at 11pm I got in the bath to relax a little. They were still very mild, but consistent. We decided that at 1.00am if they had not subsided within the next 1/2 hour we would go to the hospital. They were now 15 minutes apart. We rang for a taxi and for my brother-in-law to look after Rebecca (he lives around the corner and is single) and we went to the hospital. We were in the birth centre this time and they had a double bed, spa and it generally felt like your own bedroom. We told the midwife it was most probably a false alarm as my waters hadn't broken - she said we should stay the night and we could go home in the morning - the hospital wasn't busy.

So we undressed and got into bed - this was 1.30am. About 3am I woke up and I was very uncomfortable. I asked for the gas and the next hour was basically one long contraction - extremely painful and I felt dizzy and a little sick from sucking so much gas. Towards the end the midwife asked me if I could feel pressure in my pelvis - and I said "I think I can feel the head". On the next contraction his head popped out without her assistance - with the waters intact. The midwife broke the waters and I heard a tiny little squeak. On the next push he was born and the midwife said "I think I need some help". 3 minutes later the room was filled with people and Alexander was passed to me for a quick cuddle. He was wheeled away in an incubator and I was left shaking on the bed - Ross had gone with him. It was now 4.35am and the last 1 and a 1/2 was just a blur of pain and suffering and joy! I must have gone back to sleep after I was cleaned up because it was 8am and I was ready to have a shower and go and see him in the nursery.

He was in an incubator with a drip in his arm, a tube up his nose and various sensors attached to his body. Even though he was 38 weeks gestation he was only 1.685kg - the size of a 32 week baby. His organs and skin were mature though, and this really helped him in his recovery. The hospital was his home for the next 3 weeks and it was a difficult time of hospital visits, part time work and lonely nights at home. How I cried when I saw his empty cot next to our bed.

However, he came home and gained weight at a phenomenal rate - sometimes 500g per week. He is fed prescription formula (Neocate) as I had a breast reduction 3 years ago and had no milk whatsoever. He has a few minor issues, only one kidney, minor malformation of the foreskin and a tag on his ear - but nothing that is in the slightest bit life threatening - and he has the most beautiful smile. He is our wonderful "little" boy and we will be able to make all the bad jokes on his 21st birthday about being premature and little.

Sarah