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Topic: VBAC after 2 c-sections? hopeful!
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<Angel>
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posted 05 June 2002 10:37 PM
My first childbirth experience ended as a ceserean. I felt I had done my fair share of reading. I waited til I was 6 cm. before I opt for an epidurral. I go back over those hours again and again.
My second birth experience was a scheduled day. I was falsely given hope or maybe I wasn't looking at the percentage rates clearly. My final month was when my doctor decided scheduling would be best and if I decided to have a VBAC he recommended another doctor. Why was I given hope while they knew my wishes and still they robbed me of this gift? Let's just say I sat there like someone pushed mute. I wasn't strong enough then. Which makes me more determined now. I love being a mom. I want to extend my family someday but not just for the reasons of having a VBAC. Am I wrong to want aonther baby for that reason? My heart brokeness has been hard on my husband too. How can I reassure him that trying for a successful VBAC could be our healing?
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<carolyn>
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posted 13 June 2002 02:03 PM
Hi Angel
Wow your doctor was deceitful by leading you to believe he/she was going to allow (I hate that word) a vbac. They know that by the end of pregnancy most women would not dream of changing doctors and would think it such an amazingly difficult thing to do.
You chances of achieving a vbac are about the same for a woman with only 1 caesarean. The percentages only decrease marginally after 2 caesareans, still around the 70% success rate. And bear in mind those success rates were achieved in hospitals with I would suggest fairly arbitrary rules on how long you can labour etc etc.
I hired an independent midwife for my vbac and it was fantastic, I had a very close relationship with her by the time I went into labour and that was very important.
I was diagnosed with CPD with my first baby and delivered a bigger baby next time round.
I wish you every success, the key is to believe in yourself and find a health carer who does also.
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<Carolyn>
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posted 13 June 2002 02:11 PM
I meant to also say, that a vbac can be often a very healing process. You can also be left wondering what all the fuss is about, but you just get on with life and that doesn't seem to trouble you too much.
I have found that most women really need to heal from their past birth experiences before they approach the vbac. You are quite vulnerable in planning and undertaking a vbac and easily affected by negativity. Read some wonderful books like The Caesarean Experience by Sarah Clements or Silent Knife by Nancy Wainer Cohen & Estner. They can be a great place to start thinking about what happened the first time. You'll hopefully come to find that the failure does not lie in yourself, rather it is the system or machine in which women are propelled to have their babies that lets us down. And if you get angry about this and cry and rant and rave - that is normal and it will help. You are definitely not selfish in wanting a wonderful birth experience for you and your baby, because as we all know safety is one of the best things achieved with a wonderful birth.
I'll stop now.
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<Angel>
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posted 14 June 2002 11:39 PM
Hi Carolyn,
Thank you for your thoughts. I'm hopeful that the midwife in my new doctors practice will be a promising decision for our next birth experience. I have already met with her and she spoke of women who
had successful VBAC'S after 3 children. She did however point out that the doctor in practice will have some concern. She continued to say he is open to his patients wishes. I'm curious about the independent midwife. Would she join me at the Birth Center? That is important to me just in case problems arise? Thank you for the suggested books. I'll be in touch and will be happy to give any news of my search for other women on a journey like mine.
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<Angel>
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posted 20 June 2002 10:18 AM
I'm correcting my e-mail address.
ShimpAC@cs.com
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Debby
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posted 21 June 2002 11:00 AM
Angel,
I am having a doula who is also a qualified midwife come in with me during my labour. I am paying her for her services so she is in no way attached to the hospital.
The hospital know she is coming and they have told me I can have whoever I want as support people. So in answer to your question yes if you hire an independent midwife / doula as a support person they should be able to come in with you.
The only thing to remember from the hospitals point of view is that they and their staff are responsible for your care, so whilst they would be happy with your midwife providing you with emotional support and perhaps advice they would probably frown on her becoming involved in any direction actions eg monitoring, VEs, ROM etc during your labour. This is what my hospital has advised us but I did not intend her to be there for that sort of thing anyway so its not an issue for me.
Debby
Posts: 9 | From: Brisbane, Australia | Registered: Mar 2002
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