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JenBen
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posted 08 February 2006 12:42 PM
No worries Karen, Good luck for when the time comes.
Hi Nicola, Sam was also posterior and I have recently found out from my notes that he had a deflexed head as well (not tucked in) which is why I was so fasinated with optimal foetal positioning which when read just makes plain good engineering sense. I have realized that I spent the end of my pregnancy last time in all the wrong positions, sigh...
I have heard about Birthing Within but have not read it yet. My exhibition is opening really soon so I will have a life again afterwards and will be concentrated more on being pregnant. I have just read the original Active Birth by Janet Balaskas, a golden oldie but a goodie. I has a great set of exercises which I am hoping to put into practice.
hope you are well
cheers Jennie
Posts: 50 | From: perth | Registered: Sep 2005
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posted 11 February 2006 09:58 AM
Hi Nicola (& Jen)
Just writing to let you know that you can get Optimal Foetal Positioning from the National Childbirth Trust in the UK. They do have mail order, but I got my copy sent to a contact in the UK and they sent it here to me in Australia. It is very rare and out of print in so many countries, but I know they definately have it. Good luck with both your VBAC's. Another great book is 'Active Birth' by Janet Balaskas.
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posted 01 May 2006 06:56 AM
Hopefully computer clock all fixed now. Yes Im the lady planning on vbac after 3c/s.Getting a bit anxious as time goes on.Bub number 5 is almost 9 mths now, Im usually expecting when they turn 1, so Ive been very busy in between hours researching.Life gets busy with such a houseful, I homeschool the three oldest ones.I remember my first c/s,still fresh in my mind.I spent the remainder of preg in denial(of placenta prev) and fear that I would bleed to death just from preforming simple tasks.I was seperated from my oldest who was then attending school(we lived a fair distance from hosp(2hrs) and I was shipped off to spend the last 10 weeks(ended up 8) with my sister (who was heavily preg with number 7 at the time)I had my little girl with me but was informed I couldnt pick her up even.It was a horrible time for all.We ended up renting a house in town 2 weeks before I was to spend the last 3 weeks in hosp.Night before I was to go in,I lost large clot and blood.Panic set in.Ambo called, hubby freaked,couldnt wait any longer for ambo,kids confused.Shock setting in.Drove half way to hosp before meeting up with ambo.Arrive at hosp,checked by midwife,then ob said "we'll c/sec her later in the day,bleeding stopped."Midwife then informed him I was already in labour 3 cms dilated already.Mad rush began( me still thinking this was the end.telling my kids and husband that I loved them dearly and take care of one another)Woke up in agony but hey at least I woke up.Finally caught glimpse of baby few hrs later.Some midwives were great, others were not,very cruel insted.I told them I was heading home Monday morn(had him 3.30 fri morn)One midwife told me on sunday"how you going to look after baby when you can hardly move,and getting up took long time."Ill show her I thought,I got up off bed and stayed off all night long,my feet were so swollen I couldnt have found a shoe to fit if I tried!But I went home(sore,puffy,sad,confused,etc..)Baby was good, month prem 7pound 1.Fed well,loved him straight away.No probs there.Just thought I was going crazy!Tried convincing doc I mudt have pnd.She said no,your just tramautized from all that happened.she was right.Im not into counceling.I sought my help through my beliefs and after 5 mths I was finally happy inside again.Still had fears and anger though.Even after 2 more c/sec I still believe in my ability to give birth.None of the c/sec were a joyous event but all my children bring me joy.I dont feel less or more love for any of my children,I love them all the same.Its not them I would go back and change,just the way they entered the world.Children are a blessing and I certainly want more, I just dont want then cut and ripped out of me.Medical science wont stop, it will keep on moving'forward'.We have to be firm and strong enough to say No more will they do this to our bodies and our babies and our families.We have to live with the results for the rest of our lives, what becomes a lasting effect on us is not another thought for them.Its just another days wages for them.C/sec should be the last option not the fist.Hoping all is well for you and your growing family. ![[Big Grin]](biggrin.gif)
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JenBen
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posted 03 May 2006 09:39 AM
Hi,
What an ordeal, I just can't imagine how scary that must have been for you. Sometimes a caesar really is a life saving operation and as such should be honoured. I know with my first there are some maybes but generally I think I did need it. The problems are when after this first emergency when they try and force women to have more for no good reason. I am pretty scared of this happening as I face my second birth, now only weeks away at the most (38weeks today!). The fact that you have now had three c-sections will make it even harder to resist the coercion on the part of the medical profession. I really think you should look into whether there are any independent midwifes who could help in your area. That way when you go into the labour you would have an advocate you trust when you are most vulnerable. They would be able to help you decide when the is a real need for a c-section and when the facts are being misrepresented. It is really hard to stick to your guns and research whilst in the midst of labour without some strong support.
Another way you might get in touch with the lady who had a VBA3C would be to email some of the birthrites are contacts under the perth heading. One of them might have her email address. I am sure she would write to you if she knew. I likely to be going to the next meeting and if she was there I will let her know.
cheers Jennie
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kseers
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posted 03 May 2006 03:33 PM
Hi guys! I am a late comer to this discussion I know, but I thought I'd stick my oar in! I am almost 37weeks due with number 2 - number 1 having been an emergency caesar.
I thought I was over the grief of my birth until I got pregnant again. I found when I wrote my story, which I had never done before, I cried and cried. I talked it over with my husband and some friends and this helped. However I did find some people's response was "you should be thankful for a healthy child regardless of how it was delivered", so be careful who you pick if you do share.
I went back over my birth and what happened - and tried to pinpoint what really upset me. Some things can't be changed and you must find means of healing that hurt, but some things you can prepare against for the next time. I have devised some strategies and a birth plan that I hope will ensure a better outcome regardless of how my birth goes, but i am planning for a gentle, drug free, vaginal birth.
Some days though the fear is still there and that is when you need back up - for me, my partner and some books and CDs that I can read/listen to that help boost me up. It is important as I am coming to think that trusting your body and yourself is key and that is very hard after a caesar.
Anyway I don;t know if that is of any help but I feel better for sharing - thanks for reading!
Katherine
Posts: 3 | From: Wingello, NSW | Registered: Mar 2006
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